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Sasha, darling, don't worry about those old friends who won't talk to you anymore... You have a whole bunch of new friends right here who love, admire and respect you, and probably more than the old ones ever did. Happy Independence Day.

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Thank you for this essay. I really needed it. I was recently dumped by someone I thought was a friend for suggesting that Biden was infirm and the cases against Trump were lawfare. This was just before the debates. This friend and I hadn't really talked politics much over the years, although with her being a therapist I assumed she was left leaning yet tolerant. I assumed wrong.

She expressed absolute shock to discover I wasn't a full blown progressive. When I asked her why she would assume that since we never really talked politics she said she thought I was a good person so of course I was progressive. Now that she knew my real feelings she "realized I had been a facsist all along." She proceeded to spout every lefty propoganda talking point there was - Russiagate, "very fine people", "convicted rapist", "bloodshed", etc. My answer was that we were living in two different realities and I probably couldn't convince her that she was in the wrong one as any fact that countered her beliefs was as automatically "false right wing propoganda" as people who disagreed with her must be "facist and bigots".

It's a hermetically sealed mindset. Any and all evidence to the contrary is thrown out. Any people believing otherwise MUST be bigots. I can't be a good person who believes what I do so naturally I am a horrible person who must have just fooled her.

What hurt the most was how cruel she was. When I told her we would have to just disagree she called me delusional and laughed in my face. I had confided in her months before about a childhood trauma (sexual abuse) and she told me that maybe I had deserved this. She turned into a cruel person who mocked a person she had called a friend just the day before.

And did I mention she's a therapist!

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